40 Things before 40

So I’ve been really inspired by http://slummysinglemummy.com/category/40-things-before-40/ this womans blog posts about things she wants to do before she turns 40, I’m 36.5 right now so that gives me 3.5 years to get through a list of things I really want to do.

I’ve got a nice new writing pad waiting for me downstairs I’m off to write my list and then post it here inshaallah !!

On Line Contact Lenses.

I hate wearing glasses, however years of reading by the landing light as a kid and using the internet since 1996 has meant I have little choice if I want to see well, I wear contact lenses most of the time, I am on a very tight budget so I buy them online for about 20 quid for three months supply, I used to be with Spec Savers monthly plan which was great until I stopped working and couldn’t afford the monthly charge  they are so much more convenient when I go out in the rain or exercise glasses are not an option. Today I have an eye test so I’ve shoved my glasses in my bag and am wearing contacts, I’ll do a quick switch before the test. I know I am risking the health of my eyes by not having yearly tests to as standard with contact wearers. I do give my eyes a break by wearing glasses for a few days a week or even go a few weeks without putting lenses in. I use the computer a lot for work and leisure maybe up to 6 hours a day. I wonder how many others there are like me, saving a few pounds a month this way, I would never tell my closest friends they’d really have a go at me to just spend the extra but I know its not an option.

10 Interesting Facts About Me.

1, I reverted to Islam after 9/11 when I researched the religion and found it is the truth.

2, I am married with kids.

3, I love cheese, especially goats cheese.

4, I recently changed my career path completely.

5, I love country walks.

6, I am totally addicted to good coffee.

7, I begin every day with 7 dates from Medina and a cup of warm water with manuka honey and apple cider vinegar.

8, I used to have an eating disorder as a teenager.

9, I try and do Race For Life every year.

10, I read a LOT especially literature, my favourite book is The Woman in White by Collins.

Make your own re mineralising toothpaste at home.

Until recently I has no idea of the evils of modern toothpaste, I had dabbled with using a miswak and still use it sometimes however nothing beat the fresh mint mouth feeling of brushing with toothpaste. Until a visit to the dentist ended with hours of google searching and worry. My youngest needs surgery on his teeth apparently, he’s 5. I asked whats the alternative? the dentist had no answers. Google however had loads. There are loads of recipes for natural toothpaste on line, some use sea salt and some add castile liquid soap to add foam factor. I looked at a few and ended up with this as I had most of the ingredients to hand.

So I stocked up on the ingredients needed to make my own toothpaste which hopefully will help his teeth to heal themselves avoiding the need for surgery to remove them! Heres the recipe I used.


Re mineralising toothpaste.

5 table spoons of calcium powder (I ground “hair skin and nail” tablets to make this as they are mostly calcium carbonate and have added minerals thus avoiding having to add a mineral supplement)

3 tablespoons of bicarbonate soda or Baking powder

5 table spoons of organic coconut oil, 

2 tablespoons of powdered stevia

a few drops of orange oil or peppermint oil to taste.

Makes enough to last a few weeks I am guessing and it cost me about five quid all in all quite good value I think.


I mixed it all together in a big bowl placed in a sink of warm water, this helped the coconut oil to melt slightly, enough to be workable. I store it in a scalded jar its quite solid when cold and I use a little wooden spatula( the kind you get from a coffee shop) to place a blob on the toothbrush, it taste pleasant and leaves us with the fresh mouth feeling, time will tell if it helps little man to heal.

The Alternative

So whats the alternative? Thats a question I often ask myself, everyone is doing it, whats the alternative, pretty much sums up how I live my life. If everyone drinks tea I’ll have a coffee please, everyone sends their kids to school, well I’ll home educate mine thanks, modern medicine? let me try older safer methods first. Everyone loves shopping, I hate it and buy my clothes online mostly! I am quietly swimming against the tide along side my like minded partner in life.

For this people try and put a label on us, free thinkers, lefties or left wingers, hippies or hipsters, we were hipsters before it was hip! So yeah call us names if you like but we’re happy living as ecp friendly a life as we can comfortably manage, we don’t have a car we get the train everywhere, we don’t fly either. We’re odd and we like it, now what happens when a majority of people begin to think like us? I’ll be rather pleased as maybe then I’ll be able to buy raw milk locally instead of planning a two hour round trip on a sunday to get to the local farmers market!

Questioning Conventional Medicine.

I’m not going to preach about how doctors are all in on a government conspiracy to vaccinate and sell drugs! I want to talk about how I came to the point I am now at where I question everything I am told by a doctor or dentist. It started when I was 19, I had one child and wanted to avoid another pregnancy for a few years, the doctor recommended the pill I declined because I wasn’t keen on the idea of chemicals and I knew I’d probably forget to take it. Instead I had a coil fitted which I assumed was perfectly safe until as I was leaving the GP handed me a badly photocopied sheet detailing all the horrific things that could go wrong with it. I had it in for about 18 months over this time I am sure I had several miscarriages my period was late sometimes by up to 2 weeks and then the bleed would be awful with pain so bad I could barely stand. 

Fast forward a few years to my third child being born he had eczema from a few weeks old, I noticed his little cheeks flared up with this angry rash the day after I ate eggs, I stopped eating my favourite breakfast and his skin healed. When it came time to wean him we discovered he was sensitive to egg and dairy products. With this in mind we asked to delay vaccines unsure as to what else this little man who could crawl commando style across a room at 4 months would also be allergic to. After being referred to a vaccine consultant we discovered many things we had been in blissful ignorance of previously. 

Vaccines contain monkey tissue (polio vaccine i UK)


Egg Protein (MMR)

as well as other nasty things you wouldn’t want within two feet of your 2 month old baby. 

Fast forward again a few years, I got ill with chest pains and anxiety I had a massive panic attack in the middle of the night and was sent to A and E in an ambulance where I was treated with distain by the nursing staff who made it clear they thought I was a time waster. I was not under any stress I had given up caffeine months ago as well as aspartame. I also had stomach pain which got worse at night and if my stomach was empty. In short I discovered I had a Heliobacter Pyroli infection which can cause all these symptoms. The GP prescribed a serious of acid reducers and lots of antibiotics, this caused the pain to triple if not more I was in tears with the agony. I am pretty sure I had a stomach ulcer if not a few. 

I turned to the sunnah and never went back to the doctors, I began to drink warm water with manuka honey every morning at first the pain got worse but I kept up with it because of this hadith.

The Prophet, sallallahu aleyhe wa sallam (peace be upon him), has also told us of the healing found within honey for a variety of medical problems, including stomach ailments. One hadeeth, reported by Bukhari, states that a man came to the Prophet , sallallahu aleyhe wa sallam (peace be upon him), because his brother had a stomach disorder. The Prophet said “Let him drink honey.” The man returned a second time and again the Prophet , sallallahu aleyhe wa sallam (peace be upon him), responded again, “Let him drink honey.” The man returned again, and said “I have done that.” The Prophet then responded, “Allah has said the truth, but your brother’s stomach has told a lie. Let him drink honey.” He drank it and was cured.

I also began to drink vegetable juices, cabbage with carrot and celery, I cut out all coffee and dairy products, sugar and acidic fruits. Still the pain continued until I had a session of hijama. This by Allahs will cured the pain and since that first session I’ve had it several times both on my back and stomach, even just doing dry cupping myself has helped.

I also had ruqyah which helped a lot, Quran is the cure for everything.

Starting each day with dhikr and drinking warm water with honey and blackseed oil is helping me to keep it under control but at the end of the day the cure comes from Allah. I also take lots of probiotics everyday, I eat raw milk cheese and yoghurt too.

I will never take what a medical professional says at face value again, just this week my son went for a routine dentist check up and he told me he was going to paint fissure sealant on my 10 year olds teeth, i asked what it is and whats in it and he said “its a good thing, its a paste” I don’t think he even knows what the ingredients are!

Yeah ok, I don’t think you’ll be putting that stuff in my child’s mouth until I am 100% happy its safe, so he gave me a badly photocopied sheet detailing how great it is and I came home and googled it. It is toxic a study has linked it to infertility in men and breast cancer in women. So I’ll skip that and am currently looking for a new dentist.

If you have any doubts about vaccine safety I suggest googling “vaccine damage compensation” the results will surprise you.

I am sure its clear I am new to blogging, please have patience with a learner.






5 Mood Boosters From the Medicine of Prophet Muhammed saws.

1, Eat 7 dates from Medina every morning for breakfast after fajr prayer.

“Whoever takes seven ‘Ajwa dates in the morning will not be effected by magic or poison on that day.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 71, Number 671)


2, Drink senna tea once a month, its a gentle effective laxative (takes about 12 hours to work) take a tea spoon of senna leaves and steep in hot water for 5 mins add mint if you like or fennel to prevent bloating. Sip hot with honey to taste. Cleansing your large intestine helps boost positivity and mood and gets rid of negative thoughts. Do not drink it if you are anaemic as senna has a very high tannin level. 

It was narrated from Asma’ bint ‘Umays that the Messenger Peace be upon him of Allaahsubhanahu wata'ala asked her: “What do you use as a laxative?” She said: “Spurge.” He said: “Hot, hot.” She said: Then I used senna as a laxative and the Prophet Peace be upon himsaid: “If there were anything in which there is a cure for death, it would be senna.”


3, Drink Talbina, talbina is organic whole grain barley flour, add a table spoon to some cold milk mix with more cold milk and heat slowly stirring as you do so, add cocoa and sugar and drink it. This drink is very good for people suffering from grief or depression.

`Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) used to recommend talbina for the sick and for the one grieving over a dead person. She (r) used to say, “I heard the Messenger (s) saying, ‘The talbina gives rest to the heart of the patient and makes it active and relieves some of his sorrow and grief.’ ” [Sahih Bukhari(5325)].



4, Have a session of ruqyah, ruqyah is using the Quran as a cure for spiritual and physical problems the angel Jibril as used to recite over Muhammed saws. To learn more please use http://www.ruqyasupport.com/  or http://ruqyahdirectory.com/


“And We send down of the Qur’an that which is a healing and a mercy for the believers” [Surah Al Israa : 82]



5, Hijama or wet cupping is a wonderful way to detox your body and a cure for many illnesses, pain relief and anti inflammatory.

to find a hijama practitioner or buy supplies of the things mentioned above.





10 Things That Will Make You Happier

1, Be Thankful, look around you and count your blessings. Everyone has something to be grateful for.

2, Notice the small things, The ghost the barrista drew in foam on your coffee. The happy lady singing as she cleans. The way a hug makes you feel so content.

3, Make time for yourself, take time to do something just to make yourself happy.

4, Feed Your Soul, be true to yourself, worship God and know he alone has power over everything.

5, Stay Away from Negative, even talking about how you don’t want to be negative is draining !

6, Forgive and Forget, anger harms us more than those its directed towards.

7, Plant Something and Watch it Grew, I’m not just talking plants you can plant a good idea or a plan for the future, savings or plant a line of seeds of knowledge and build on it.

8, Learn a new Skill, learn a language, learn to bake bread, learn to bite your tongue, ride a bike, run 10 km and congratulate yourself.

9, Keep Your Body Clean, a basic you’d think but you’d be surprised how much difference it makes to be truly clean, keep wuthu as much as possible.

10, Remember Allah, make dhikr throughout the day, silently and out loud what is more beautiful and enriching to a soul than hearing the praise of the All Mighty, attract the angels who will flock to you to join in.

Falling in Love

I have fallen in love, its been a long slow process and has taken many years it wasn’t love at first sight I wasn’t caught unawares this was an affection I strived for and nurtured and fed. In fact it started with hostility and disgust which took a while to get over.

Over the past decade its grown from a mild affection and respect to head over heels. The person I have learnt to love is myself. Yes I am talking about my relationship with who and what I am. I am kind to me, I am never unkind, I don’t put myself down silently or otherwise. Don’t get me wrong as in any healthy relationship I am all too aware of the personal faults I possess and yet I hide them with loyalty to me. I’m very far from perfect, but my flaws are mine, some of them are funny, some fill me with a sense of shame however I accept them all as part of who I am and love myself more for being able to spot them and work hard to iron them out with Gods help.

I give myself time to do things that make me happy and I don’t beat myself up for it. Just this morning I went back to bed and sat and read a novel for a few hours while my children watched cartoons and ate biscuits for breakfast, a luxury and I rose feeling refreshed and happy. I go for long walks, I take long baths, I read and I study and I write, I garden and I cook, I make time for my friends and my career all these things make me feel comfortable that even though my most important roles are as a wife and a mother I have an identity outside of them.

One of the most important lessons I have learnt is how vital to my health and well being it is to say no when I mean no, no I cant take on that extra role, no I cant do that favour. This stops negative feelings and prevents me getting myself stressed when I stretch myself too thinly, a true friend will understand when you say “No I cant do that I’m sorry.”

Putting myself first is not something to be ashamed of, I eat when I’m hungry and I make time for my soul to be fed with Quran and ibadah make dhikr and I rest when I am tired. I cuddle people I love I read stories to my little ones and we have fun. I never make a martyr of myself, my house is not spotless and my laundry basket is always full, I carry a bit of extra weight and I am not as strong as I need to be but i am happy with who I am right now, I can work to change things one step at a time and I’ll congratulate myself on my achievements on my journey.

I love that I was made a woman, that my body follows the cycles and that I feel the changes within physical and emotional as I move through the month. I love that Allah has blessed me with children that my body has sheltered and birthed and fed. I love that all the trials and hurts I carry don’t weigh me down and I can shake off depression by turning to my creator and crying my tears to Him who alone knows the pain I feel. All thanks is to Him alone.

I love that I have to keep pushing myself and that I have grown round and soft over the years. I look forwards to my future and whatever Allah decides is right for me I’ll put my trust in Him and be thankful by His will for who I become.